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To the two wondering sistersвYou both appear to be with loving, incredibly supportive men. That is a goal worth fighting for. While I admire his dedication, his focus and intelligence, it has been extremely hard on me. The first year is mostly research with regular hours followed by those daunting 3 years.
It's typical to not hear from him for weeks. I realize that the answers to many of these questions may be different for every family, and that we need to continue to discuss them more as a couple as we continue to think about our future. She is probably thinking she can convert you if she is with you long enough and is a good enough example.